WOMEN, EMPATHY & ANGER
She had so many health challenges….
She had already spent years, bordering on decades, researching, trying, looking for ways to regain her health… to heal her physical issues.
She was beyond frustrated, and as an empath, she had decided that it was just her overly-sensitive system that was the reason for all of her maladies.
She was convinced there was something wrong with her digestive system, her endocrine system, her nervous system, her reproductive system, etc., etc., etc.
Yes, there was a lot wrong, but it wasn’t what she thought.
The origin of the problems was not physical, it was emotional, energetic.
So much emotion and energy was being expressed through her body in ways that compromised her health.
She’d grown up in a family where only one person got to express anger and that was her father. Everybody else had to find ways to deny, suppress, hide, minimize, and outright deny their anger.
She, and everyone else were shamed or punished out of their right to express natural anger in any way whatsoever.
Other women may have experienced addiction, physical violence, emotional abuse in their families and were also robbed of their right to express anger. And the culture-at-large gives the same strong message: No Anger For Women! Not OKAY!!
So, then the survival mechanisms of hiding, pretending, acting out, people-pleasing, compensating, etc. come at a huge cost, because the energy doesn’t go away….it just finds another avenue of expression.
For this amazing woman, it was her physical vehicle, her body that held and expressed it all….and that had taken its toll.
She embodies just one of the reasons why….
I help women to recognize, identify, acknowledge, and use their natural anger.
Yes, anger….and very often their grief too…
Very often it doesn’t show up as anger.
In this culture women are very good at denying and disguising anger.
We have so many ways to cover it. To deny it. To push it down. Work around it.
See if you can relate to any of these symptoms of anger…
Resentment, irritability, resistance..
Guilt, depression, fatigue…
Discouragement, hopelessness, confusion…
Restlessness, sadness, frustration…
Arguing, sleeplessness, criticizing…
Physical problems, chronic illness, life-threatening disease…
So, you get what I mean?
Here’s the thing: anger is an unbelievably potent source of natural energy for living your life.
But when it’s denied, that energy is unavailable to be used consciously.
Women have been told for eons that it’s not OK to be angry.
It’s not ladylike… it’s not feminine… it’s not attractive… it’s not nice…
Look! Guess what…if you’re naturally wired for anger, then it’s not only OK for any human to be angry….it’s natural…and it’s necessary.
When what you’ve learned is to deny it and push it away, then it can’t be acknowledged, processed, metabolized, and released naturally like any other emotion. This IS how we humans feel, experience, respond to and then release emotional energy!
For another person, hidden anger may be expressed in chronic, dysfunctional patterns in relationships, for someone else it may be around money, or work, sex, or pleasure….
So when I say that I help women with anger, what that means is that I help them to find it in whatever ways it’s showing up in their lives….
…and then claim it and use it as a power source to live their amazing lives.
Once they identify the shame, and take the lid off of anger, all kinds of creative possibilities emerge, assertiveness becomes possible, and courage they didn’t know they had…. and manifesting what they want goes through the roof.
The beautiful woman I talked about earlier is just one example of how repressed anger gets expressed. And when she worked with me, I helped her to notice and honor the anger, and use it constructively to become more aware of her patterns and EMPOWER herself at work, in relationships, and with her well-being. Big changes!
Once we stop vilifying the anger, shaming women for it, and acknowledge it as simply human emotion, then you can begin to live with natural, innate power.
You find a roar inside of yourself that you didn’t even know you had!
That roar is your refusal to be denied, to be quiet, to pretend any longer.
There’s a door that closes behind you… the door to acquiescence and compliance and quiet and pretense and people-pleasing….and nice.
Then sisters, the sky’s the limit! We go from there!
And what an amazing ride it is!!
Into realizing your hopes, your dreams, your talents, your gifts….
And most importantly, into living the life you came here to live, as the person you came here to be.
If you are ready…..
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