I’m very happy to be in touch with you again. And as an aside, I hope you will give yourself the grace to take a break from things, as I did recently. Now I’m back and so happy. Allowing right timing is very precious and respectful for empaths.
So much has happened in the meantime, and what I’ll focus on in this very first email is the issue of life challenges. As we know, they can take all forms: financial, relational, career, health, national, spiritual, etc. I’ll focus on the commonalities that we experience when going through a life challenge. Then, as briefly as possible, I’d like to do it in a way that allows us to begin to recover from that feeling of having the rug pulled out from under us by the challenge.
Once we settle from the “rug experience,” we’re faced with the reality that has changed, and the necessary grief that accompanies it. We can’t minimize that reality.
So whatever the particulars are of the loss you have experienced, the first step is for you to honor the grief triggered by that loss. We must honor that there are stages of grief, and there are stages of navigating through the transition. This is a good time to practice journaling, meditation, and prayer, to eat simply, and to exercise gently. In these ways, we take care of body, mind, and spirit.
There really is no timetable for the stages. This is where patience is most definitely a virtue and a gift to yourself.
I can share personally about my most recent serious challenge, which was a health issue that developed almost invisibly over time and ultimately led to a hospitalization that lasted six entire months. I surrendered completely to the hospitalization and surgery, treatments, etc. And the next piece is key, because it wasn’t until after I was discharged from the hospital and began to live life in a wheelchair, with all kinds of therapy and limitations, that I truly began to grieve.
I want you to grant yourself, in the midst of your own personal challenge, the grace to not know what to do next, and to surrender to helplessness.
It may seem counterintuitive, but those of us in modern life are so used to taking charge of everything that surrendering to almost anything or anybody sometimes seems impossible, or even wrong.
The very last piece I will offer about this is that as sensitive, intuitive empaths, eager and generously willing to help, love, and support others, being rendered incapable could be exactly what it takes to open us to letting others minister to us.
I hope this topic sparks thought, consideration, musing, and even reminiscing about past challenges that you’ve experienced. We’re always capable of growing and learning.
I love you, and if questions come up based on your reading of this blog, please send them to me in the comment section below. We can definitely keep the discussion going.
Sending you love and blessings, and huge gratitude for being here to receive and read this first of many emails!
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