Today, let’s explore ongoing resentment… or anger… or displeasure… or annoyance… or irritation… or, frankly, rage… You get the picture…
Very often, a “people-pleasing” behavior pattern prevents us from expressing what we truly feel because “they” might not like it… they might get angry… they might react badly… etc.
The thing is, this might be conscious… or it might show up as a nervous stomach… or a headache, anxiety, unexpected outbursts of impatience, irritation, or anger, a desire to withdraw rather than connect… even with our favorite people.
You might even experience it as sleeplessness, frequent sighing, tears “for no reason,” frequent colds/flu… even asthma, allergy symptoms, body pains of all kinds…
And sadly, it could show up as a whole list of other health issues that can manifest in our bodies…
Personally, I have in the past unconsciously manifested debilitatingly painful sciatica in my lower back, a dangerous eating disorder, terrible panic attacks… And other minor maladies…
And by the way, the sciatica, the eating disorder, and the panic attacks disappeared as soon as I dealt with the issues that were creating them… Magic? Not really, just awareness and taking responsibility.
Easy? Not by a long shot! But it did take facing squarely what it was that I had been repressing and unwilling to own in my life. My divorce from my first husband, I owned how angry I was about that relationship, And I worked with a wonderful therapist who helped me to understand why I had been feeling anxiety for most of my life, since I was a child…
The thing to remember is that the body knows, and the body doesn’t lie. We might lie. We might not tell the truth but the body always does.
And let’s be fair… what the body expresses and manifests and demonstrates… very often will be completely unconscious to the mental, emotional, psychological parts of yourself… So yes, you will be unaware!
Hey, it’s not like we deliberately do these things to ourselves because we’re unwilling to express ourselves truthfully in relationships!! No, not at all.
So I just ask you to think about this… what are you experiencing in your body these days?
What has historically been true about your body?
Do you say, “Oh, that runs in my family”?
Or perhaps, “I don’t know why I’ve got this”?
Just start by asking yourself…
What feels crappy in my life right now?
What/who do I wish would just go to hell away?
Who do I wish would stop bugging me… or trying to control me?
What do I wish I could stop being responsible for all the time?
And very importantly, what is it that’s going on in my life that I really can’t stand… and wish would change?
And right now to keep going in this same vein…
Ask yourself…
“What is it that bothers me… or hurts me… or causes me pain… or disables me… or that I even have to take medicine for… that would go away if (fill in the blank__________) would just disappear!
And very importantly, if I didn’t give a flying flip about what other people think of me…
… what would I say and do about the things that bug the living daylights out of me in my life… people, situations, circumstances, agreements, responsibilities,… etc.?
My main intention for this conversation is for you to start asking yourself some of the questions in this article, and to start becoming aware of unconscious decisions that you may have made… and possibly are even still making… that led to something uncomfortable, harmful, or even life-threatening for you…
To be continued… but in the meantime, if something is nudging you to get in touch with me because you’d like to start exploring how you might be able to change these issues, then please get in touch!!! Let’s do some deeply powerful work together.
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