Even though it seems counter-intuitive, you can’t solve a problem by continuing to pay attention to the problem. Focusing on the lack of what you want is going to keep you in the lack of whatever it is, whether its money, your ideal body, a loving relationship, a gorgeous home. It’s all the same. If you keep banging the drum of “I don’t have it, and I have to figure out how to get it” that’s going to be a hard path for you. The spiritual teacher Abraham, and Albert Einstein agreed. Einstein said, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” So solving problems requires a paradigm shift out of what we’ve always done, to something that seems unrelated.
On the other hand if the answer…the paradigm shift… is always to love yourself, then it becomes very simple to become a magnet for the things that you want. Loving yourself means reaching for what feels good in every moment. And that simply means doing the next right and loving thing for yourself in every moment. It doesn’t get any simpler than that.
Yes, of course you will have to face those entrenched limiting beliefs that tell you that you don’t deserve to feel good all the time. But trust me, that’s the easy part. Once you begin to allow yourself to feel good, feel joy, feel loved and you see what manifests into your life, you will realize that all of those limiting beliefs, even if you got them from someone else initially, were of your own creation. And therefore if you created them, you can change them. Bam!
It’s a very powerful thing to claim the right to live from self-love. It basically says to everyone in your past, present and future, “The only thing that matters now is loving myself. I trust that you love me no matter how you act so I’m not going to get hung up on what happens between us.” Same thing can be true with your body, or your finances, or your home…no matter how neglectful or even abusive you may have been until now. You can start by loving it right now and making the next right choice and the next right choice and the next loving choice etc.
Same with everything…. if you have been living in a lack of ___fill in the blank___, then take your focus off of it. Put your focus on joy, on feeling wonderful, on appreciation and gratitude.
I have conversations with my higher self, my guides, and with my record keeper crystals almost every morning and they always tell me the same thing; that it boils down to loving myself. That’s a choice. The ego will find all kinds of reasons why you shouldn’t love yourself. And yet it remains the only answer, the most powerful answer. This is what will turn you into a magnet for all of the things that the universe already knows that you want.
So give it a whirl! I’ve done this before with respect to a relationship, with having a child, with money, with travel, with all kinds of experiences. And basically, all of these things manifested into my life in seemingly miraculous ways. But the miracle is that I created the possibilities, and the conditions for them to manifest by FEELING GOOD and not trying to figure out the ‘how’ of it. And a delicious secret is that they ALL existed in the quantum world before they manifested into this physical world….more on that to come…
Most recently the Universe surprised me in one day with an amazing new friend, and then an entire group of warm and wonderful new friends, and then a fabulous opportunity for radiant well-being and prosperity. Why? Because I wasn’t banging the drum of “I’ve got to have those things!” I was simply focused on doing what makes me feel good, feel good, feel good over and over and over. And of course the Universe knew that I wanted these things, because I made it known, and then let it go.
I would love to hear from you about how this is been true in your life, or how you would like for it to be true in your life.
As always I hope you SPARKLE!
Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama
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