HONORING YOUR UNIQUENESS
The reason that many of us who identify as empaths balk at strict rules and “shoulds” is…get
this!…we’re unique and always changing.
Who knew! 😅
If we’re tuned in and paying attention, we notice that our needs vary.
Often a lot!
Now I do understand that most of us, some of the time, find comfort in routine.
It’s mostly those times when we insist on a strict routine or a rigid way of doing things, that a part of us rebels.
You may find that you simply “forget” to do that thing, or you do the exact opposite of what you consciously intended.
That’s when your inner being is expressing to you, “I’m don’t like this!”…
… “Stop controlling me.”
..or the ever-popular “You’re not the boss of me!”
My client is in a huge process of shifting and changing right now in a key area of her life.
She had an experience the other day after she got excited by yet ANOTHER plan to improve her “problem area”…which almost as soon as she decided to do it, she rebelled against. 🙄
She’s no fool, so she noticed what she was doing. Her dreams that night were kind of strange too…
And as soon as she got up the next morning, she heard very clearly what she knew was her inner child saying to her, “Stop. It’s enough. I am so tired of you bossing me around and changing your mind every 5 minutes. Leave me alone, leave me alone!”
The beauty in all this is that she’s been doing the work with me long enough to see the pattern, recognize the voice of her inner child, and pay attention to the energy that her dreams brought. Rich stuff.
What she realized that is much as she is a student and proponent of the law of attraction & manifestation, she was using her left brain to try to find all kinds of ways to create what she wanted in her life rather than just staying the course by doing her inner work, elevating her emotion, and being in the feeling place of ALREADY having what she wanted.
And she instantly forgave herself because after all, she is human.
We’re never travelling in a straight line… remember the Spiral Path?
She heard my voice reminding her that we don’t manifest what we want by doing doing doing, but by being being being.
Huge difference that led her back to herself and her conscious life.
The trick here is not to get defeated and discouraged by falling into that same “hole in the sidewalk” over and over again, like that familiar poem says.
What we want to learn from this is to walk down a different street…
Everything we think is a misstep takes us through another revolution and ever higher on that Spiral Path so it’s all good. Just learn from it and move on.
What my client decided is, because every plan she’s looked at for manifesting the thing she wants, came out of an individual person’s experience and needs, it’s quite possible none of them match her, her experience and her needs. Wow!
So now she is trusting her own knowing, tuning Into her own guidance, being patient with herself, checking in with her inner child about what she needs, and finding ways to elevate her emotion and be in the ALREADY experience of what she wants.
Can she guarantee that shall never be lured by another sure-fire plan again? Maybe not, but what she does know is that she’ll notice what she’s up to more quickly… and maybe not even buy into the new plan…but if she does, she knows her way back much better… and she can find it faster.
I have definitely found myself in this position a number of times throughout my life. One time I remember very clearly is when I was divorced and finally decided to stop dating. I was on the phone with my friend Jim, and I said to him, “That’s it I’m done with dating. I’ve got my work I’ve got my friends I’ve got my kid I’ve got my dog I’ve got my plants…. I’ve got so much. I do NOT need to be looking for another man.”
I totally shifted my vibration. 2 weeks later I met the love of my life. 38 years later we are still together and in love.
Just sayin’… 🙂🙃
This brings us right back to what I started with… we are all unique… let’s try to remember that.
Maybe that’s enough for today…
If you find yourself in this kind of an endless loop, looking for one plan after another to solve a so-called “problem” in your life, I can help.
Get in touch. Let’s chat.