My Dear Empaths,
Do you realize how vitally important your anger is?
It is a clear message from your inner being that something’s wrong. And it is NOT unspiritual!
Listening to and expressing your anger in ways that do not hurt others is essential to your mental, physical and spiritual health.
This email is especially for you if you are a sensitive Intuitive Empath. Why? Well, the short answer is that People Pleasing gets in the way of owning and managing your anger. And to be blunt, you can’t afford it. So read on…
What a twinkle in the eye of my 88 year old client, when I told her that beating the crap out of her mattress would feel AMAZING, bring her more peace and well-being. She immediately thought ‘whiffle bat’! 🙂 I mean, is she cool or what!
How do you release YOUR anger?
During a period of releasing A LOT of deep anger from what I called the “holding tank”, I regularly used something called a “Fat Albert” bat that I got at Toys r Us. It was made of plastic and was much thicker than a regular plastic bat. So when I hit the mattress it would give a resounding THWACK.
I used it regularly until the holding tank had been drained of anger. Then it was just when anger popped up momentarily. And by that time I had learned how to process it differently.
I remember painting on my easel one time when I was really upset with my son. And by the time I finished what was in front of me was a very energized, colorful piece of art. Nothing that I needed to save…it had just given me a vehicle to express and release anger.
Watching a TV program one evening, a police detective in NYC had to attend anger management classes. The one thing that the psychologist failed to tell him, was that eventually his health would suffer if he didn’t learn to release the anger, and stop compartmentalizing and suppressing it at home in an attempt to spare his beloved wife and kids.
On one level, that was a loving decision for his family. But on another level he was eating himself up alive with anger.
And we probably have read the articles about the physical toll…and the emotional, spiritual, and psychological conditions that result from repressing anger and burying it take on one’s overall well-being. Everything from headaches to heart attacks…and no, sadly I’m not making that up.
And btw, Spiritual Temper Tantrums ROCK! Shaking your fist at God and the Universe, no holds barred, can be a very healthy thing to do. I’ve done that more than a few times! This will clear more junk than you can imagine…and what emerges when the junk is cleared is usually stunning!
So consider this your ‘get out of jail free’ card, your lifetime pass, your permission slip, to identify, own and express your anger as part of what you are humanly wired for….and with very good reason!!
Hey, just because you are sensitive, intuitive and empathic doesn’t mean that you don’t get to FEEL anger… And express it somehow!
Just go ahead and email me here, if it’s something you’d like to discuss with me. I look forward to hearing from you.
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