It’s Time Now! Let’s Have Some FUN! Part 2
Last week I blogged about how your Inner Child affects you one way or another. I hope you got a chance to read it. If not, go back and read it now, before you read this one! This is especially important if you are dealing with your own PGC/Personal Glass Ceiling that’s keeping you stuck and limited. Because actually, your Inner Child just might hold the key to you being able to move through that….just maybe… I invite you to read on now….
I’d like you to think about your Inner Child as you would any small child: precious, creative, lovable, temper tantrums, strong-willed, needs approval, needs love, wants you to play with her, introduces you to a lot of fun, needs guidance and wisdom, wants freedom, and will do whatever she needs to do to get her needs met. That’s kind of a full picture don’t you think?
And everything I suggest in this article I’ve done myself with my Inner Child…for decades. So let go of the notion that it’s silly or ridiculous….fact is, it’s powerful and it’s healing and it’s enriching…and it’s necessary!
The way I always suggest beginning a relationship with your Inner Child, even though it’s been going on since the day you were born, is to just let her know that you know that she’s there. This is especially important if you feel like you don’t think you have a clue about what to do with a child. Sometimes I’ll tell a client, “When you walk out of my office today and you get into your car I want you to imagine that you buckle her into the seat next to you. That’s all just she’s just there with you, and if you want to you can say to her, I know you’re there and I don’t really know what to do with you but I’m going to learn, so let’s hang in there together.”
Another thing I suggest to my clients is to buy a great big stuffed animal that feels good to hug. Mine bear is very smooshy and I love that feeling…like having a one year old baby in my arms. Keep it in your bedroom and when you want to spend quiet, private time with your Little One, pick it up and hug it close to you. You can talk to her or not, but just that act of hugging is super-connecting and loving because it’s about Presence. Your Presence for her…and you will start to feel her Presence for you too. It’s amazing how much emotion can arise from hugging a stuffed animal you pretend is your Little Self!
This relationship begins like any other relationship, you get to know each other. It’s some point you’ll want to begin to dialogue with her and you can do this aloud, or you can do it by writing in your Journal. One of the very creative and powerful ways to do this is with what I call Non-Dominant Hand Journaling. So, you begin with the hand you usually write with and you start asking her some questions, and you write them down…. and then when you’re ready to hear her answers you switch your pen to the hand you don’t usually write with and you begin to write with that hand. This accesses your subconscious mind, your right brain very effectively, and even though you’re writing will look like ‘chicken scratch’ as the nuns used to say lol, you’ll be amazed at what emerges as you write this way. You will learn things about her that you might not learn any other way. Try this, really!
Another very fun and effective way to get to know your inner child and for her to get to know you is through Intuitive Art. Just sit down with her with the some paper and a box of crayons or markers or finger paints or water colors… and play. I’m not asking you to create a piece of art that even looks like anything, just play just whatever colors you want to play with, with whatever strokes of the brush make you feel good. It’s all about how you FEEL with intuitive art. And then when you feel finished, stand back and ask yourself what you see, ask yourself what emotions might have been placed on the page with with color, ask yourself who’s in the picture, what are they doing…. even if there isn’t anything that looks like people. We’re kind of reading energy here, and if you’re on this Community email list of mine, I’m guessing that you’re pretty intuitive so this is going to be something that’s right up your alley. Just play with this, be inquisitive, inquire investigate. Leave your/her piece of art out for several days because as time goes by, you will see more in it and more insight and wisdom will come to you.
At some point after you’ve gotten to know each other you’re going to want to let your Little Inner One know that she can trust you. That you know that you let her down in the past by not keeping good boundaries or setting good limits or being discerning and making good choices with the people you let into your life, but that now that you know her, and you love her, and you know how precious and vulnerable she is, you realize that it’s your job to take care of her…. and that you will do your very best to keep her safe and respected.
I can tell you that after years, or decades, in the closet of your mind she will be so happy to hear that you acknowledge her presence, and that you care about her, and that you’re going to do your best to take very good care of her. That’s when you can begin to have some fun together too. You will almost ‘see’ her smiling, laughing and jumping up and down clapping her hands with delight! After all, she’s been waiting a very long time for you.
Julia Cameron, the author of The Artist’s Way suggests something called an “Artist’s Date” which is basically when you and your Inner Child plan together, and go do something fun together, just the two of you, just to play. This is a wonderful way to bond with one another, and for you to begin to claim the Shadow reserves of all of the playful, creative, intuitive energy that she’s been holding for you. Maybe you decide to go to a park and swing on the swings, maybe you go for an ice cream together, maybe you go to see a movie. My Little One and I like to go to antique and vintage shops to look at the dolls and toys that remind us of our childhood…a jack-in-the-box, that silly monkey on a stick, jacks, baby dolls. By the way I have a set of jacks and a ball right here on my desk, and we play jacks on my office floor!! Be creative, be imaginative, think outside the box with this. Have FUN!!
Once you establish this relationship and she is a part of your conscious emotional, social, recreational, creative life, an energy you didn’t know you had, a courage that will surprise you, and a self-love and self-respect will arise in that will be stunning in their clarity and intensity. And yes, this IS YOU!! She IS YOU!!
Are you beginning to see how a relationship, a full relationship with your Inner Child could help you to move through a Personal Glass Ceiling that’s been holding you back for ages? I hope so, this is such vitally essential work to you having a FULL LIFE!! And if you have some questions about it please message me or use the link below to set up a time for us to chat. I’d love to hear from you.
As always, I hope you SPARKLE!!
Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama
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