Do you find yourself inspired and wanting to change things when you read what I post on my Everyday Joy Coaching page on FB, or on other pages, or in books that you read, blog posts, articles, etc.? And then do you make an attempt but find that you can’t sustain the effort, or you fall short of your goal to suffer less, be happier, build more resilience, become more optimistic, etc.?
The problem isn’t you. Really. It’s a lack of leadership and guidance. Pure and simple. All of the best ideas have to be actually IMPLEMENTED ongoingly, over time to actually take root and shift thinking, behavior and outcomes. They have to be EMBEDDED in order to change what goes on in the subconscious mind and allow the new thinking, believing and acting to occur with regularity and become established. They have to be INTEGRATED so they actually become second nature to you.
This is what coaching and counseling are designed for—at least the very best, most professionally excellent kind. Their purpose is to encourage, guide, and shape the implementing, the embedding and integrating of the desired changes. Your coach will get in there and teach you the “HOW” of it.
So if you find that you are aiming for X, Y or Z, and that you can’t seem to get there on your own, despite all of the teleclasses, books, weekend seminars, online courses, CDs, pithy sayings, blog posts, articles, etc. consider the very good possibility that your Soul would love for you to get the ongoing support and guidance and encouragement that would make all the difference.
Imagine your Soul saying to you: “Sweetheart, it’s time to stop spinning your wheels and make some actual progress that will feel SO GOOD. You don’t have to do this alone, all by yourself. You don’t have to keep feeling frustrated and like you’re failing. You CAN makes these changes you want so badly, you just need someone walking with you, keeping you company, helping to light the path and keeping you on track. It won’t take forever, but it will take a bit of time. You are SO worth it. Let go of your pride and ask for help, sweet one.” At least this is what I imagine your Soul saying to you.
Sometimes what is true is that there is ‘stuff’ to get out of the way, and then you CAN take off into the changed life and relationships you dream of. Sometimes you are ‘this close’ to those changes. Sometimes it simply takes a new set of eyes to see the energetic opening that will allow you to set foot onto a new path. Sometimes you need the encouragement to be consistent with doing the same new thing over and over and over until it takes hold. Sometimes…..
What is your “Sometimes…”? Are you willing to be assisted, supported, guided and …BIG ONE…to actually get where you say you want to go?
I have been in the same position I’ve described here countless times in my life. I have had amazing and wonderful therapists, counselors and coaches during my adult life who DID make all the difference in my being able to make the changes I wanted. Whether it was facing and healing painful experiences from my past, understanding and healing an eating disorder, learning new parenting skills, navigating the intense emotions of divorce and then healing, helping a child in trouble, processing grief and loss, expanding spiritually, building my new coaching business after 22 years as a therapist, they all did exactly what I am describing here. All of the best ones do.
I’m not a big fan of spinning my wheels and getting nowhere fast. My experience has shown me how valuable help can be.
How about you? Is it time?
If you think you might be ready to commit to this, and would like to chat with me to see if we’re a good fit, email me theshamanmama at gmail dot com and we’ll do it!
As always, I hope you SPARKLE!!
Love you, Bless you,
Janice Masters, The Shaman Mama
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